I was down for close to 3 days last week. I had fever and ulcers in my throat, just one step away from being diagnosed as HFMD (coz there were no spots on my hand and feet). I had 38-39 degree fever for two days. I was so sick that I had to keep sleeping. Eating was excruciating because of the ulcers. I wasn’t used to it because I haven’t been sick for so long. Something I told myself since I had Izzie: I cannot be sick because I have to take care of her. I think it has kept me well for 18 months. 🙂 Powerful self-talk, me thinks. In fact, this is the first time I took Medical Leave with MC since I became a church staff.
Last week started with Izzie having fever on Monday . The baby doctor advised us to keep her home for a week. With my mom’s help in the mornings, I took half days (afternoon) off to take care of Izzie at home. By Wednesday, the virus hit me. My hubby took over…and by Sunday, he too was down with fever. Previously, he had throat infection when we came back from CNY celebrations in Penang. It was just a terrible week for the entire family. But I was glad I had my hubby’s & mom’s help. By the grace of God, we are all well now. Praise God!
Somehow it makes me happy that my girl gets excited about nature
It is the sweet, simple things of life which are the real ones after all.
February was a stretching month for me and the family in terms of finances, health and relationships. Personally for me in my marriage, I hit the crossroads. I realised the love we used to share died. Reality hits. My ball game isn’t just two people staying married. It’s a household with commitment to do housework and raising a child. It is not like drama drama sob sob story… I just came to this questioning: What do I do when love dies in a marriage or in the family? What if I don’t have to strength to do this anymore? My weekday starts at 6.30am and it may not always end at 2am. Sometimes, later.
As I began to align my thoughts with God and His Word, I began to embrace “That being in love is not an adequate foundation for building a successful marriage…. That commitment is the foundation of a marriage and commitment means allowing myself to be unhappy for a while until we work things out. I began to pray and I told myself…I have to learn to love again and the strength to love again comes from God. I can’t say we are the model couple/family. But I’m glad that today I am able to sing:
“I’m so happy, so very happy, I have the love of Jesus in my heart.”
And this week, I begin to read this book: Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman. I’m so blessed to find out that what we are going through is normal: we are transitioning to the next stage of romantic love. From euphoria (effortless, delight) to this 2nd stage which requires work in order to keep the emotional love alive. This stage involves the intentional work of demonstrating love through the 5 love languages.
Take the love languages quiz @ 5lovelanguages.com